Erm hi :) I just wanted to say congratulations for being a whole year free of self harm! That is amazing well done beautiful! I was wondering if you had any advice to someone going through the same thing, like who's been there for you & what you do when you're struggling etc? Any advice really.I'm only 1 month clean but well, its a start! It's so inspirational to hear that someone has done a whole year, and it can be done and things do get better. So yeah, thankyou for being you and well done <3
Well first of all, thank you so much! I really appreciate it when people send me messages like this, it makes everything a lot easier!
As for any advice, it;s kinda cliché but you just have to keep at it. There’s nothing that you can do but keep at it. Because i can tell you, its normal to relapse, it happens, i did a few times. But you’ll look back on it after a few months and thing “that was the dumbest thing i’ve ever harmed for” because its easy to relapse because you just miss it.
But yeah, sit and think to yourself that “is it really worth it?” “will this make my life better if i hurt myself right now?” or “Will it cause me more problems?” More often than not, its more problems.
As for struggling techniques, i found personally that pinging an elastic band on my wrist when i got the urge useful, and also rubbing ice on the place you want to hurt yourself. My most useful thing was literally to just lay on my bed, face down and forget everything, try and sleep even, because you tend to feel better afterwards. To be honest, i didn’t use a great deal of coping techniques because i was so bloody determined to be completely rid of it. But there’s loads of helpful sites on the internet with coping things :)
Best friends really help, if you have someone that you can talk to about these things, urges, anything, then turn to them and talk it out. Talking it out with someone or just general chat to take your mind of it DOES WORK. I used to do it all the time with Martha, just told her i needed a chat, then i’d forget all about what i was going to do. So even if you don’t want to tell your friends what you’re going through, just ask them if you can talk about a tv show for a bit. Becca is another person that helped me a ridiculous amount, and im forever grateful for those two. I wouldn’t have done a year without them i don’t think.
And no matter what, or how long you’ve been clean for, be proud of yourself! That’s something you were addicted to, you don’t just say to alcoholics that “its only a month since you had a drink.” No! A month is incredible, a week is incredible, a year, 5 years, 10 years clean, any amount of time is your achievement! So be proud of it :)
(Also im always here to talk to ANYONE on or off anon)
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